Thoughts of a Diva

Hey y’all! I really hope that 2016 has been good to you thus far. I haven’t posted in FOREVER. I’ve let time get away from me, but writing is my relaxation and I vow to relax more often. So Anyway – let me jump right into my first post of 2016 and my first post in a looooooong ass time! So….I have a boo. Yea, yea more on that in a future post. But let me tell you guys dating is already scary but dating with kids is super scary because it’s not just my life that I might be messing up. So I’m not going to sit her and lie and say that I took all of these things into account before I started my current relationship but these things have been on my list of ‘must haves’ for a while. Back up back up, now I haven’t dated in FOREVER! I haven’t been in a relationship since 2003. Listen, believe what I tell you and ignore the fact that I have a 9-year-old son. Ha, that too is yet another post. (He was created in the beginnings of a relationship reboot that didn’t fully reboot due to lies and o...

I won't bore you guys with the details of the series of events that led me to want to write this post. However, I will let you in on the not so secret secret that I am a single parent to 2 wonderful boys ages 6 and 12 who both share the same father. This post is not entirely about their dad but partly about him and partly about a lot of foolishness I've seen on social networking or heard about through the grapevine. Now that the introductions are out of the way, let me just tell you what parental categories exist in my mind. I may be wrong, I could be right but either way this is my opinion. Custodial Parent: This parent has physical custody of the child and is the primary caregiver. He/she is responsible for the physical well-being of the child. Now most often, if this is a single parent, it is usually the mother simply because we carry the child, and for the most part have more nurturing instincts (it's harder for a mother to run away from parenthood than it is for...

I'm single, I know. So as I write this post please know that I know that things happen and we never 'really' know what we'd do in certain situations until we are, of course, placed in those situations. Also, if you are a friend, relative, or someone who knows me and you feel some kind a way about this post rest assured I'm not talking about you. My posts are always about me, my life, my viewpoints. Now, you may be indeed a part of my life which means you have some amount of influence as to the things  I've seen, heard and know about but trust and believe you alone have not been the inspiration for the post. But I wouldn't be me if I didn't add that you you're feeling some kind of way about what I'm about to say then maybe you need to evaluate your life and your priorities. Shall we continue? Now, as I was saying I am single. I've been a parent for 12 years now and as I look by I've been single the majority of that time. When I grip...