Thoughts of a Diva

Hey y’all! I really hope that 2016 has been good to you thus far. I haven’t posted in FOREVER. I’ve let time get away from me, but writing is my relaxation and I vow to relax more often. So Anyway – let me jump right into my first post of 2016 and my first post in a looooooong ass time! So….I have a boo. Yea, yea more on that in a future post. But let me tell you guys dating is already scary but dating with kids is super scary because it’s not just my life that I might be messing up. So I’m not going to sit her and lie and say that I took all of these things into account before I started my current relationship but these things have been on my list of ‘must haves’ for a while. Back up back up, now I haven’t dated in FOREVER! I haven’t been in a relationship since 2003. Listen, believe what I tell you and ignore the fact that I have a 9-year-old son. Ha, that too is yet another post. (He was created in the beginnings of a relationship reboot that didn’t fully reboot due to lies and o...

       If you know me then you know that I don't get males. Like at ALL! They are so weird to me and that's coming from someone who grew up with 2 brothers and is now raising 2 sons. I mean I get along with them...some of my best friends are male (ha); but when it comes to romance with the opposite sex and I am completely lost. So let me ask you guys what you think.          So there's this guy that I kind of sort of know and I think he likes me OR he thinks I like him and finds it humorous.  I can be very friendly and playful (usually out of nervousness/shyness) when I meet a person and I guess that can be mistaken for flirtation but I don't think I've been that nice to him. I hardly ever see him. But when I do see him, if he's with this one friend in particular they act really strange together.      For example, they once approached me about nothing. That sounds weird because it is weird. They came to...

Don't Get Caught Slippin' Okay so I met this guy, we’ll call him John – because that’s his name (no I’m not scared and yes I will put you out there)   Anyway John and I talked for a   few weeks, maybe a month; just texting after the initial exchange of numbers. Not dates, no sex, no pressure, nothing serious. This was back in maybe September of last year. After this kind of died off for whatever reason (I don’t know I wasn’t pressed because I met someone else who I liked better and started dating him) I didn’t even think about John even though I thought he was a rather cool guy. Well, fast forward to February 2013, and in comes a text from John. By this time I was talking to the other guy or anyone for that matter so I was like oh cool, here’s a text from John. And because I’m a G I’m going to give y’all the entire transcript ….well, the important parts. Check it: 2/2/13 Him: Hey Latina Me: Who is this? Him: John, we met……. Me: Oh, What’s up? Long time no he...

I'm single, I know. So as I write this post please know that I know that things happen and we never 'really' know what we'd do in certain situations until we are, of course, placed in those situations. Also, if you are a friend, relative, or someone who knows me and you feel some kind a way about this post rest assured I'm not talking about you. My posts are always about me, my life, my viewpoints. Now, you may be indeed a part of my life which means you have some amount of influence as to the things  I've seen, heard and know about but trust and believe you alone have not been the inspiration for the post. But I wouldn't be me if I didn't add that you you're feeling some kind of way about what I'm about to say then maybe you need to evaluate your life and your priorities. Shall we continue? Now, as I was saying I am single. I've been a parent for 12 years now and as I look by I've been single the majority of that time. When I grip...

The old saying warns us “He’s not going to buy the cow, if you give him the milk for free”. And while I’ve seen this proven on numerous occasions, it seems to me that a new saying would better describe dating in today’s world. How about “Men would rather drink substandard milk, than invest the proper time and effort in a good decent breed of cow” In case you can’t decipher that let me explain. I’ve watched guys settle for and then later listened to them complain about women in their lives who have disappointed them to say the least. For example, I have a male friend who by all accounts is a solid guy. He’s attractive, god fearing, educated, humorous, hard working and genuinely caring. But when it comes to choosing a girl can’t help but assume he’s got more than one screw loose. I remember him once telling me about a woman he was dating and why he had to let her go. The conversation went something like this: “So why did you two break-up?” “She couldn’t tell me what she as ...

So I've decided to online date. I use the term date very loosely because I've only been on three dates with people I've met online and both of those were over a year ago. Now, I get my fair share of  'say there shorties' from the fellas I meet in person but I do go many places too often. My life mostly consists of work, target and home. Let's explore Facebook as a dating & mating site shall we? Though Facebook is not 'advertised' as a 'dating' website, let's face it, we've all scrolled across a hottie or two in the 'People You May Know' stream and wish we had the nerve to virtually flirt. Well some of us are just that brave. I'm not. But some people are. Now I have had some success in Facebook dating in the aspect that I did connect with someone that I met on FB. The problem with FB though is that people usually happen across your profile because they know someone who knows someone who knows you. And while I wish there...