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Friends with Benefits



So when you think of the term 'friends with benefits' you usually think of someone claiming to just be friends but actually getting the benefits of a relationship. These benefits are usually related to sexual acts. My situation is a little different. See I have a situation with a guy that I've known for years that I label as friends with benefits. However, his benefits package has not included physical contact. See the benefits that he seeks are my undivided attention. He wants my opinion on everything, he expects me to answer when he calls and when I don't it seems that he feels entitled to an explanation. 

What's up with that? Maybe I'm just reading it wrong. Maybe this is what friendship between a girl and guy is like. I'm a firm believer that it's highly unlikely for a man and woman to be friends just friends from beginning to end without one of them at least thinking about making a move on the other. And I think that in this kind of unbalanced relationship the other has to be aware of this and accepting of it. 

In our case I'm probably the one that had the crush but I'm almost certain that he's had a mutual admiration for me at different points in our relationship. Especially since we actually met or exchanged numbers with the intention of going out. *I'll tell you more about that disaster later* We never made it to that date but we've been in contact every since. And I guess overtime we've become friends. I don't understand it but what the hell? I go along with it anyway. 

Do you have a friend of the opposite sex? Is it strictly platonic on both sides? Tell me more!




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