Skip to main content

Friends with Benefits

So when you think of the term 'friends with benefits' you usually think of someone claiming to just be friends but actually getting the benefits of a relationship. These benefits are usually related to sexual acts. My situation is a little different. See I have a situation with a guy that I've known for years that I label as friends with benefits. However, his benefits package has not included physical contact. See the benefits that he seeks are my undivided attention. He wants my opinion on everything, he expects me to answer when he calls and when I don't it seems that he feels entitled to an explanation. 

What's up with that? Maybe I'm just reading it wrong. Maybe this is what friendship between a girl and guy is like. I'm a firm believer that it's highly unlikely for a man and woman to be friends just friends from beginning to end without one of them at least thinking about making a move on the other. And I think that in this kind of unbalanced relationship the other has to be aware of this and accepting of it. 

In our case I'm probably the one that had the crush but I'm almost certain that he's had a mutual admiration for me at different points in our relationship. Especially since we actually met or exchanged numbers with the intention of going out. *I'll tell you more about that disaster later* We never made it to that date but we've been in contact every since. And I guess overtime we've become friends. I don't understand it but what the hell? I go along with it anyway. 

Do you have a friend of the opposite sex? Is it strictly platonic on both sides? Tell me more!


Popular posts from this blog

10 Things That Make Me Happy

In an effort to write more and post more on my blog (once again) I am going to start sharing writing prompts on my Facebook page. I'm sharing them with my friends because I truly believe in the calming power of writing and if I can encourage just one person to write then I've done my job. So here you have it' 10 Things That Make Me Happy: In No Particular Order 

Motherhood. Without out a single ounce of exaggeration, I live for my kids. I am consistently plagued with feelings of loathing and self doubt but I know that I brought these little people into the world and that I'm responsible for them. Because I feel that I have the responsibility to put on a brave face for so many other people no one will every fully understand the demons I fight on a regular basis. My children are my protectors. If it weren't for them I would have lost my battle to at least one a long time ago. 

Creating. Ya'll know I love to craft. My love for craft gives me a sense of accomplishmen…

2 New Weight Loss Tips

So, I recently started using to new nutrient based things to help me in my weight loss journey. I haven't really been taking them long enough to give you guys any final results but I would like to go ahead and let you know what they are and how I fell about them so far. I've been taking them for a week now.

The first is Gymnema Sylvestre and it is a natural herb that helps regulate blood sugar and curbs your cravings for sugar. Now, I am a sugar addict! I mean if I had my way I'd have a pastry (or 2) for breakfast, something sweet for lunch and something sweet with dinner not to mention juices and sugar based snacks throughout the day. I mean I've got it bad.

Now I'm starting to think the Gymnema Sylvestre is working because I purchased a bundtlet from Nothing Bundt Cakes Tuesday and it is DELICIOUS...but I've only managed to eat a third of it. I've had it for 2 days already. NO WAY IN HELL is this normal for me! So I think this one is working.

You can pur…

Random Thoughts: Social Media Lies

Here are three random thoughts that are loosely related: 
Lying on social media should be considered a crime. You're on here making folks feel inferior; wishing their lives were as 'exciting' as yours when what you're presenting is only part of the story and sometimes it's just the part you made up. Some one recently commented on one of my photos "who does your hair because it looks good one every photo" Now, is my hair ALWAYS done? Hell nawl...but I aint taking and posting pictures when it's not. One of my recent boyfriend is all over social media with his new girlfriend. If I think about it long enough my feelings are a little hurt because one of the main things we constantly bumped heads about was social media...him flirting with other girls, we weren't friends on FB and I can't remember him EVER mentioning me or our relationship on social media. But here's the thing, despite him publicly showing how in love he is with this girl he is …