Thoughts of a Diva

This pic came across my Facebook feed the other day and MAN did it speak to me. It's deep. On the for real, for real. I mean you can't just look at it but you have to LOOK at it. To me, people are always complaining about what the next person is getting. It's like STFU! You are not #winning if you are competing against those who didn't start out on the same level as you or have not have been afforded the opportunities as you. Why do we even feel the need to WIN against the next person? You can't just win to be winning. Or win to help the next person win? Or at least come in second! If you don't need a  handout stop sticking your damn hand out! We as a people are too scared to help the next person because of the fear that they may become better than we are. In other words, equality is bullshit; justice is what's up.

I won't bore you guys with the details of the series of events that led me to want to write this post. However, I will let you in on the not so secret secret that I am a single parent to 2 wonderful boys ages 6 and 12 who both share the same father. This post is not entirely about their dad but partly about him and partly about a lot of foolishness I've seen on social networking or heard about through the grapevine. Now that the introductions are out of the way, let me just tell you what parental categories exist in my mind. I may be wrong, I could be right but either way this is my opinion. Custodial Parent: This parent has physical custody of the child and is the primary caregiver. He/she is responsible for the physical well-being of the child. Now most often, if this is a single parent, it is usually the mother simply because we carry the child, and for the most part have more nurturing instincts (it's harder for a mother to run away from parenthood than it is for

I'm done!     The people in the background are just as bad as she is! That's that BS....

  This song is EVERYTHING rachet. But I like it. I don't even know why. Wayne's verse is utterly vulgar to say the least and Nikki coulda stayed off the track but yeah. This is my jam. I bump it. In my car, with the top and windows up so no one else will know. #don'tjudgeme     XO XO - Latina-Renee     P.S. There's a part at the end were Future sings a line and I have NOOOOOOO earthly idea what he's talking about. I don't even know what he says. It's like another language. Where is he from?      

      When I walk up in the piece, I ain't gotta even speak I'm a bad mamajama goddammit ************ you ain't gotta like me I aint studying these hoes, Need to talk what you know And stop talking bout who I'm sticking and licking jus mad it ain't yours I know ya'll poor ya'll broke, Ya'll job jus hanging up clothes Step to me get burnt like toast,Mutha****as adios amigos Halves halves wholes wholes, I don't brag I mostly boast          Okay, so maybe Missy's lyrics do not apply to my situation or to my life period. However, GOSSIP FOLKS are fucking up my life lately. Well not really. Maybe adding stress to certain parts of my life but really to tell the truth it's only effecting about 5% of my life. ANYWHO - the thing that has bothered me the most is a certain individual who has been a part of my life for a couple of years now. I have trusted this individual with information and asked them not to say anything only to find out

Okay I've been wanting to do this but I always get sidetracked----Here's the first Throw Back Thursday Jam!

I used to be, for the most part, a serious grudge holder. I mean when someone would do something, anything negative to me I would completely cut them off. Of course because of my nature I was always very vocal about 1. What they did, 2. Why it upset me 3. What I think they could have done instead and 4. What our relationship would be like from that point forward. I look back now and I imagine that I must have seemed like a crazy woman telling people that we were done and then explaining to them in great deal why and the consequences. Kind of like a parent scolding a toddler. I think the reason why I get so hurt when people do me wrong is because I am a very very caring and generous person who does NOT wear their heart on their sleeve. Usually people tend to think that I am void of emotions. This always makes me laugh because I am an emotional mess. But, I’m not very vocal about this until I feel that I can completely trust you and that you will regard my feelings as serious muthaf

Don't Get Caught Slippin' Okay so I met this guy, we’ll call him John – because that’s his name (no I’m not scared and yes I will put you out there)   Anyway John and I talked for a   few weeks, maybe a month; just texting after the initial exchange of numbers. Not dates, no sex, no pressure, nothing serious. This was back in maybe September of last year. After this kind of died off for whatever reason (I don’t know I wasn’t pressed because I met someone else who I liked better and started dating him) I didn’t even think about John even though I thought he was a rather cool guy. Well, fast forward to February 2013, and in comes a text from John. By this time I was talking to the other guy or anyone for that matter so I was like oh cool, here’s a text from John. And because I’m a G I’m going to give y’all the entire transcript ….well, the important parts. Check it: 2/2/13 Him: Hey Latina Me: Who is this? Him: John, we met……. Me: Oh, What’s up? Long time no hea

I'm single, I know. So as I write this post please know that I know that things happen and we never 'really' know what we'd do in certain situations until we are, of course, placed in those situations. Also, if you are a friend, relative, or someone who knows me and you feel some kind a way about this post rest assured I'm not talking about you. My posts are always about me, my life, my viewpoints. Now, you may be indeed a part of my life which means you have some amount of influence as to the things  I've seen, heard and know about but trust and believe you alone have not been the inspiration for the post. But I wouldn't be me if I didn't add that you you're feeling some kind of way about what I'm about to say then maybe you need to evaluate your life and your priorities. Shall we continue? Now, as I was saying I am single. I've been a parent for 12 years now and as I look by I've been single the majority of that time. When I grip

                   So I'm still attempting to lose weight. I'm motivated but I'm not motivated. I can eat healthy or at least within my calorie range (thanks to MyFitnessPal) it's just the motivation to do exercise that's holding me back. Simply watching my caloric intake has helped maintain my current weight and even manage to shed a few pounds so I know that introducing exercise will really give me the push I need.           I really like to walk, but with it being winter time and my work schedule being 9-6 I don't really have time. It doesn't get light earlier enough for me to feel safe walking in the morning and have enough time to get dressed for work on time and it doesn't stay light long enough for me to walk after work.  I need to just focus and get going doing something.              Not having a car has hampered me some too because I can't go to a gym or to the Big Dam Bridge where there would be people after work. I think I'

I do not own this photo. Understand?       Every Thursday night my Twitter feed and Facebook Timeline is basically raped and murdered by tweets and posts about the ABC show Scandal created by Shonda Rimes and starring Kerry Washington and Columbus Short.       Now before I go any further - I want it to be understood that I LIKE the show. I'm a watcher, a follower even. I try to keep up with each weeks episode and I even anticipate what's going to happen next. However, I haven't caught the fever and gone completely bat shit crazy like everyone else seems to have done. I mean last night I even saw an Instagram post about the show. I mean really? All three of my fave social networking sites have now been victimized by the craze.      I just don't see what all the hype is about. First off, the show is beyond unrealistic. On last night's episode the girl that set Huck up was committing all kinds of security breaches on the White House grounds and we all know th

The old saying warns us “He’s not going to buy the cow, if you give him the milk for free”. And while I’ve seen this proven on numerous occasions, it seems to me that a new saying would better describe dating in today’s world. How about “Men would rather drink substandard milk, than invest the proper time and effort in a good decent breed of cow” In case you can’t decipher that let me explain. I’ve watched guys settle for and then later listened to them complain about women in their lives who have disappointed them to say the least. For example, I have a male friend who by all accounts is a solid guy. He’s attractive, god fearing, educated, humorous, hard working and genuinely caring. But when it comes to choosing a girl can’t help but assume he’s got more than one screw loose. I remember him once telling me about a woman he was dating and why he had to let her go. The conversation went something like this: “So why did you two break-up?” “She couldn’t tell me what she as